1.  Step away from your "self" so that you can gain new and broader perspectives of yourself, and your life.

2. Stop trying to keep up with "The Joneses." Chances are they're trying to keep up with someone else. It becomes a never ending, emotionally, psychologically,  and financially, draining cycle.

3. Learn how to Forgive. As Nelson Mandela once said, "Forgiveness sets you free." Try it and you'll quickly find out how true his statement is.

4. Don't live in the past. It's gone forever. You'll never be able to retrieve it, so why dwell on it? Emotions like jealousy, regret, hate, guilt, and worry, are time wasters and only hurt on else. They eat away at a person unnecessarily and often become self-defeating and self-sabotaging behaviors that lead to emotional paralysis.  

5. Live in the "Now." We're only on this Earth for a short and finite period of time - "Life is Permanently Temporary." Enjoy each "Now" moment. And...keep moving forward.

6. Be kind, tolerant, loving, and non-judgmental, but not weak. Everyone is different. No two people act or look the same. We can learn so much by being open to each other instead of thinking that we're always right. Our species is a beautiful fabric of different textures, why not enjoy the aesthetics of the entire tapestry? Each one of us needs the same things: Love, Respect, Shelter, Food,  and the other basics of life. Know that none of us is greater or better than the next person...just different. And...while you keep an open mind and heart, be sure to maintain your strength of character and well-being.

7. Listen. Everyone has a story to tell. You already know yours. People bond quicker with those who listen to them (and their stories). How else will you learn if you don't use your ability to listen? Don't let active and intense listening become a lost art in your life. 

8. Be grateful. Whatever you have, or don't have - there is, more than likely, someone else who would trade places with you "in a heartbeat." Sometimes it's hard to "see the forest for the trees," but you can bet, you're better off than lots of matter how hard the advertising, marketing, and media industries try to convince you otherwise.

9. Exercise your body and your mind. Walk, run, workout, read, do puzzles, write, converse, visit museums, watch interesting movies, videos, television, and discuss it all with yourself, your family, and your friends and acquaintances. Get opinions about all the different aspects of life. Intellectual discourse is a great way to stay "sharp."

10. Sleep and take time to relax. Not much is better than a good night's sleep. Don't deprive yourself of that luxury. It refreshes your body and your mind and enables you to function at your peak. And, wonderful it is to relax and take in life next to a flowing stream, on the beach, in the mountains, on your couch, your deck, porch, front lawn, or wherever you choose. Relaxing and having a good night of sleep are two of the most beneficial things you can do for yourself.

11. Eat right. A balanced diet translates into a balanced being. Healthy food makes the engine of life perform at its most efficient level. When you "organic" products. I'm not saying to be a vegetarian (of course, if you are that's great). We've evolved as omnivores, yet so many of our meats, vegetables, dairy products, fruits, nuts, and grains have been tainted by science in the name of "progress and profit." Beware. No one knows what all those pesticides, herbicides, genetically engineered, and factory farmed products will ultimately do to our systems. Why take a chance?

12. Laugh, sing, and don't take things too seriously. Come on! Why not? As I said before..."Life is Permanently Temporary." Do you really want to spend the better part of it worrying about things that have mostly been made up anyway? Remember...we live in a world of mental, societal, and social constructs. Once you realize that, you begin to see the absurdity in so many of the things we take as real or important. Laugh! You'll be much better off for it!

Jane Z
2/26/2012 06:00:51 am

Excellent! A list worth looking at, definitely, more than once. Love it! Thanks for taking the time to create it.

2/27/2012 08:55:54 am

If everybody would follow these "commandments", this world would be definitely a better place! A lot of us need to be reminded of a simple things....

2/28/2012 11:55:27 am

Jane and Iryna...thank you for your kind words!

2/28/2012 10:44:17 pm

I truly believe in the "Don't live in the past. It's gone forever." There is no reason for me to continue to dwell on the past because there are emotions like regret, hate, and guilt which in the end hurt me more until I realized it is healthier to just let it go.

3/1/2012 01:38:33 am're absolutely correct. "Letting go" sets a person free.


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