We were all young children at one time. Then we "grew up," whatever that term means. Sometimes I think we regress after a certain age until we become "children" again. Our regression begins when we start to learn the various forms of hate or intolerance, become judgmental, and lose our innocent curiosity. Perhaps we actually "grow down" not "up."

As we age, things start to become "downers" when, as a child, almost everything is an "up," exciting, new, something to learn, fun, and interesting. We didn't judge people by their religion, their homes, clothes, professions, or cars, the color of their skin, the shapes of their bodies, their titles (or lack thereof), or what nation they came from. None of that mattered. They were our friends, or friends to be. We felt sad when they left and happy to see them again. Sure...we have the same feelings about certain people in our lives now. But...that's after we've "filtered" others out. Which may be a good thing, since they're all adults now. However, how come it never entered our minds when we were young children?

Laughing and playing were what mattered. Mommy and daddy provided the necessities of life, including the most important Yes, life is complex. So many things divert our attention. Too often we believe things are important when they're really not. The things children intrinsically know don't matter, we somehow create constructs to make them matter. We delude ourselves into making things worth more than they actually are (if they're worth anything at all to begin with). Why do we do that? Is it because we have this need to make ourselves important, substantiate our positions, or create self-worth and/or higher self-esteem (which doesn't seem to be least not here in America).

Is it possible that we will learn to return to our "child mind" before we seem to do it in "old age?" After we reach our "golden years" we often recognize the fact that we've spent far too much energy concerning ourselves with things that were not really significant. It's then that many people "mellow" and tell others not to worry, or share the wisdom that a they've amassed (or re-amassed) over the years, and that young children seem to be born with.

Can we recover our "child mind?" Are we able to search our mental "files" before we slip into our "golden years" and find the wonder and tolerance we had in our early youth?" I certainly hope so. And...I know it's possible. However, we have to quickly realize that it is a gift hidden within our minds and that the continuation of our species may depend on it.
Shivam agarwal
5/28/2012 06:09:40 am

Really i love this

Dan Goldberg
5/28/2012 06:48:20 am

Thank you for your kind words Shivam! And...I'm glad you do!

jeremy v
6/4/2012 03:23:03 am

good article. I also agree that when people get old they become children again. All the really old people I know seem to enjoy life more after they retire. They are no longer stressed by work and can really have fun again. they take up new hobbies and interests that they are curious about, kind of like a teenager.

Dan Goldberg
6/4/2012 06:29:28 am


Wonderful observation! Yes...undue stress (often associated with societal constructs) causes people to miss the enjoyment of life. It's sad that usually it's the young and old who know this and realize its importance, while those in the middle lose sight of how much fun life should be. Before they know it...time has passed and its then that they recognize how much "enjoyment" they've lost.

Xiujuan Chen
6/4/2012 02:03:43 pm

Yes, it seems we have lost the ability to dream as we grow up. We have a lot of things to worry about: job, family, health, etc; while a child does not have such worries. That's why I often wish I could go back to my childhood when I am stressed.

Dan Goldberg
6/5/2012 02:26:43 am


You are so right. We have moved away from our ability to be stress free and have created an environment filled with stress. It is sad that so many people buy into a construct that their lives need to be filled with negative stress in order to "succeed."

It certainly doesn't have to be the case.

Toni Caldwell
6/28/2012 09:45:34 am

My grandmother often says once an adult...twice a child.

I do think that we can rediscover our child mind but we just need to know how to channel it. Just the other day I got on a bike for the first time since I was probably 13-14. OMG!! I went flying down the street with the biggest smile on my face. My friend who I was riding with asked what are you laughing about? My response was "I feel like a kid again!!!!" :*) That was the best feeling ever. I promised myself that I was going to hold on to that feeling by riding my bike at least twice a week

Dan Goldberg
6/28/2012 12:29:17 pm


That's a wonderful story!'s certainly true that, through exactly what you just related, we can get in touch with our "child mind" and explore and expand it from there.

And...your grandmother is right!

7/16/2012 02:15:05 pm

Now we have something that could last a loong time in our minds thankyou

Dan Goldberg
7/16/2012 03:35:19 pm


Thank you for your insight and your kind words.


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