The beauty industry is chuck full of this tactic. And...not just for woman, but men as well. You must have a "certain look." to be thought of as beautiful. Or - act a certain way to be in with the "beautiful people." Regardless of the cream you apply to your skin, the deodorant you use under your arms, the spray, color, or gel that permeates your hair, or the makeup you put on your face, one thing is always overlooked...you can't make your inside beautiful by buying some sort of cosmetic.
Yes...we all have our chemical attractions to another person. There's a physical look that turns us on. The sound of one's voice, the way a person carries himself or herself, their build, certain parts of their bodies, their hair, smile, eye color, and teeth, all play a role in attraction. Still, it's all for naught if the inside isn't developed, is miserable, negative, insecure, narcissistic, or any myriad of things that negates the beauty on the outside.
Did you ever look at someone and think that they were a beautiful specimen of a human being? Of course you have. Did you then have the opportunity to get to know them and find out that, within a short amount of time, you realized that their inside didn't match their outside at all? And then...no longer found them as attractive, or maybe even, wanted to get away from them as fast as possible?
We work so hard on our outward appearance that we forget that what's on the inside is more important. What makes a happy couple? Of course, they have to be physically attracted to each other, but...what keeps them together comes from within.
When you look in the mirror, think about the qualities that make up who you are. What legacy would you leave if you died today? I know it's a morbid thought, but...it's an important one. Would people say that you were a good, caring, loving, compassionate person? Geez...perhaps they'd also think that you were attractive (which is a relative term) too. Or...would they just say that you were good looking but not someone others wanted to be around. Or - at the very least was tough to be around?
The question is real. The reactions are real. That's life. You may be rich and not liked, rich and loved, poor and hard to feel close to, or poor and deeply loved. Money has nothing to do with it. It's about you and what's inside. Take stock of who you are and what others will say about you when you're gone. You may not care. But...those around you will. One way or another our legacy lives on and our impact on others continues long after we're dust.