Life has its trials and tribulations, as we all know. One day a person may be filled with joy, the next day he or she may be deep in sorrow or worry. The human condition is not an easy state for many people. There is, however, a way to mitigate one's problems.
For too often a person will begin to wallow in their own "bad" situation. Negativity morphs into worry, regret, jealousy, fear, and other self-defeating and/or self-sabotaging behaviors. The more a person wallows, the deeper they get stuck in the muck. Walking in a field of muck and mire is extremely difficult. If you've ever done it you know that you can sink so far down that your shoes or boots may become "extracted" from your feet...too heavy to lift in the suction of the dense and gooey earth. Yet, some people get through it with relative ease, while others give up. Why?
Perspective helps us deal with the muck and mire of life. One person's mucky field is another person's opportunity for success. The pessimist sees a place to get "swallowed up," while the optimist sees an area to grow crops.
When one is caught in the muck they often lose perspective. However, that soggy field is almost always just another part of a road that leads you to success. Sometimes getting stuck enables a person to stop, look around, and collect his or her thoughts, figure out how to remove one's self from the mire, and start the next "leg" of their journey.
You'd be amazed to know how many people have used "disaster" as a stepping stone to success. They've taken the lessons learned from their "negative" experience and used it to sculpt a new aspect of their life.
As I've often said, "Keep moving forward!" While, in actuality, life does that for us anyway, in the more colloquial sense...it's really up to you and your perspective. Change your mindset and you can change your life, for the better, very quickly. Don't change it, and...you may have to hope someone hears you, as you're stuck in the muck, and - that they're carrying a "lifeline."
A positive state of mind is not just an expression, it's a way to lessen your burdens and help you deal with life's situations in a manner that enables you to grow, build, and succeed.
People worry, they regret, get jealous and feel guilty about things they've done or should have done. Yet...who do all these negative thoughts help? No one. Sure you can worry about your relationships, money, your grades, mortgage, what clothes to wear, how others view you, your health, or a myriad of other things. You can regret what you did in the past, feel jealousy towards someone who's dating an old flame, has a "better" car, house, or job, than you do. Even be overcome with guilt about something you said without thinking, never said, should have done, did out of spite, or some other reason. But really, who gains anything from any of this?
Yea...you may have learned a lesson. However, the fact is that - rather than spending (or a more appropriate word might be wasting) your time mulling over things that might have been, or you hope will be...either do something positive to change your situation, or - stop thinking about it and move on. I know what you're saying, "Easier said than done." Okay, perhaps at the beginning of the process that may be true, but once you get into living in the "now" you start to get it. Is anyone perfect about "letting go." No. Are some people very, very good at it? Yes.
The only person worry, regret, jealousy, guilt and other like emotions affect are YOU. You get the ulcers. You get the hemorrhoids. You get the digestive, stomach and heart problems. Not...the person you're jealous of. They go happily on their way! Nor do the things you're worrying about, feel guilty about, or regret. They're all somewhere out in memory land, ether world, or residing in a fantasy.
So, start the process of re-thinking your life and emotions now. Become a "now-er," which will soon morph into a "now-er/know-er." It will help you in so many ways that translate into a better style of life and a healthier one too. Oh, and before I forget...you'll laugh more to boot!