Life coaching has become a catch-all phrase used by all sorts of people and organizations to promote a better, happier, more productive, and successful life. Some people opt for schools (a relatively new phenomenon) that certify folks to be a coach. Of course...who certifies the schools and, more importantly...who certifies and monitors the certifying agency and the certifiers? It's a question, I, and many others have asked. And, just like any other schools and those who attended them, your teacher could have graduated at the top of his or her class or the bottom - yet no one ever asks. In fact - when was the last time you asked your doctor his or her rank in their graduating class? My guess is...never. That notwithstanding, I tip my hat to the thousands of qualified coaches who help millions of people everyday!
I've been coaching people for many, many, years. So long in fact, that I actually had hair on my head when I started and my beard was all dark! I love helping people and thoroughly enjoy it when I, and they, see real progress in their lives. Getting people to understand who they are and why and how they do things, opens up doors for them that they may never have realized. Finding new success in their lives, whether from a business perspective, materialistically, emotionally, or spiritually, never ceases to make me feel wonderful.
One of the greatest things a life coach can experience is when his or her client moves away from fear, insecurity, low self-esteem, jealousy, anger, hate, and self-sabotaging and self-defeating behaviors, and begins to find the person they were hoping to be their entire life.
I began formally coaching in 1972 when I worked with my employees to help them grow and live a happier, more successful life. Now...I coach and train groups, both large (amphitheaters, huge hotel meeting rooms, and banquet halls), and small (corporate conference rooms, classrooms, and individuals' homes and offices). We're, both my clients and myself, always learning. That's why I see my capacity as a university professor as an extension of my coaching and training. I also love the fact that I continue to, through the magic of computers and teleconferencing, coach people all over this amazing planet.
If you are a life coach or have, or will, use the services of a life coach...I salute you. If you're stuck, feel "down," are looking to reach the potential you've always thought you could, want to be more content, happier, more enlightened, have better relationships, or just want to experience that "balance" so many people seem to have lost...perhaps the guidance of a coach can help. But - ultimately, it's up to you to make sure your journey is fruitful.
I must say...I laugh a lot. I guess it all started with my dad. He was a very funny man. That led to me taking his lead and becoming a joke/funny story teller, my high school class' "class clown," then a stand-up comic and writer, the soldier that other guys in my company wanted to ride along with to keep things light and in perspective, a man of many voices on morning radio here in Philly, and on to just a guy who enjoys injecting humor into his keynote speeches and (when in the role of professor) his class discussions .
I find humor in everything from Anthony Bourdain (on the travel channel), to Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert (on the comedy channel), to real news shows (yep...that's right, our news is, more often than not...a bit askew), to the comedies on the "silver screen" (no horror flicks for me...gimme a belly laugher any day), to the absurdities of life (including myself, my life, and some of the things I do - geez, if you can't laugh at yourself, how can you laugh at others). Life, and the things we humans do in it, is often so bizarre that I have to laugh at it. The clothes we wear, the vehicles we drive, the things we think are important (and really - to me anyway - aren't), make me laugh. Sometimes I'll be driving along the highway, look out my window, see a ridiculous vehicle and just start laughing. I know that we live in a comedy show. I see it everyday in real life.
If I took half the stuff seriously that "they" want us to...I think I'd have to regurgitate my lunch.
Look around and you tell me whether or not you believe that most of the things people do aren't worth, at least, a chuckle. The political process we're going through now is, if you honesty look at it, extremely funny (although some may call it sad). I choose to laugh at the absurdity. The same goes for some of the other things we think are "stuff to be serious about."
Break it all down and...they're mostly made up. Some by "madmen" and some by others who genuinely want to help people. But - we live in a mental construct. Of course...there are lots of things that I take very seriously. Nothing is more horrible than people being hurt or worse (either physically or mentally). However...it's the rest, that when looked at honestly, is basically a game. And, all too often, a funny one.
So...here's some advice. Laugh more, don't take things too seriously. Start by laughing at yourself. Then, move on to the world around you. Pretty soon you'll find that you're less stressed, feeling better, enjoying the humorous (new) side of life, and not worried about a lot of the things that used to drive you nuts. And...you'll also recognize that laughter is great medicine! Oh yea...you can start with the ads on TV for those other medications.