Life coaching has become a catch-all phrase used by all sorts of people and organizations to promote a better, happier, more productive, and successful life. Some people opt for schools (a relatively new phenomenon) that certify folks to be a coach. Of course...who certifies the schools and, more importantly...who certifies and monitors the certifying agency and the certifiers? It's a question, I, and many others have asked. And, just like any other schools and those who attended them, your teacher could have graduated at the top of his or her class or the bottom - yet no one ever asks. In fact - when was the last time you asked your doctor his or her rank in their graduating class? My guess is...never. That notwithstanding, I tip my hat to the thousands of qualified coaches who help millions of people everyday!
I've been coaching people for many, many, years. So long in fact, that I actually had hair on my head when I started and my beard was all dark! I love helping people and thoroughly enjoy it when I, and they, see real progress in their lives. Getting people to understand who they are and why and how they do things, opens up doors for them that they may never have realized. Finding new success in their lives, whether from a business perspective, materialistically, emotionally, or spiritually, never ceases to make me feel wonderful.
One of the greatest things a life coach can experience is when his or her client moves away from fear, insecurity, low self-esteem, jealousy, anger, hate, and self-sabotaging and self-defeating behaviors, and begins to find the person they were hoping to be their entire life.
I began formally coaching in 1972 when I worked with my employees to help them grow and live a happier, more successful life. Now...I coach and train groups, both large (amphitheaters, huge hotel meeting rooms, and banquet halls), and small (corporate conference rooms, classrooms, and individuals' homes and offices). We're, both my clients and myself, always learning. That's why I see my capacity as a university professor as an extension of my coaching and training. I also love the fact that I continue to, through the magic of computers and teleconferencing, coach people all over this amazing planet.
If you are a life coach or have, or will, use the services of a life coach...I salute you. If you're stuck, feel "down," are looking to reach the potential you've always thought you could, want to be more content, happier, more enlightened, have better relationships, or just want to experience that "balance" so many people seem to have lost...perhaps the guidance of a coach can help. But - ultimately, it's up to you to make sure your journey is fruitful.
People worry, they regret, get jealous and feel guilty about things they've done or should have done. Yet...who do all these negative thoughts help? No one. Sure you can worry about your relationships, money, your grades, mortgage, what clothes to wear, how others view you, your health, or a myriad of other things. You can regret what you did in the past, feel jealousy towards someone who's dating an old flame, has a "better" car, house, or job, than you do. Even be overcome with guilt about something you said without thinking, never said, should have done, did out of spite, or some other reason. But really, who gains anything from any of this?
Yea...you may have learned a lesson. However, the fact is that - rather than spending (or a more appropriate word might be wasting) your time mulling over things that might have been, or you hope will be...either do something positive to change your situation, or - stop thinking about it and move on. I know what you're saying, "Easier said than done." Okay, perhaps at the beginning of the process that may be true, but once you get into living in the "now" you start to get it. Is anyone perfect about "letting go." No. Are some people very, very good at it? Yes.
The only person worry, regret, jealousy, guilt and other like emotions affect are YOU. You get the ulcers. You get the hemorrhoids. You get the digestive, stomach and heart problems. Not...the person you're jealous of. They go happily on their way! Nor do the things you're worrying about, feel guilty about, or regret. They're all somewhere out in memory land, ether world, or residing in a fantasy.
So, start the process of re-thinking your life and emotions now. Become a "now-er," which will soon morph into a "now-er/know-er." It will help you in so many ways that translate into a better style of life and a healthier one too. Oh, and before I forget...you'll laugh more to boot!