We live in a society of faith. Faith means different things to different people. To some, it's faith in a Supreme Being, to others it's faith in family and friends, and to still others - it may mean faith in our governmental, civic, academic, and religious institutions, and/or the leaders of those entities. Of course, none of these are mutually exclusive. I'd venture to say that most people have faith in a combination of all, or some, of those I've mentioned.

When we put our faith in anything that's outside of ourselves we begin to lose control of our destiny. It's well known that the best way to control people is to make them feel less confident, less capable, less powerful, less happy, and less content. Those in "power" have been using that method forever. People who lack control of their own destiny tend to want, and often need, someone to follow. However, the best person to look towards is yourself.

Sure it's easier for someone else to tell you what to do. But...those who take the time to recognize what other people are trying to do to them quite often can remove themselves from the situation and follow a different voice; the one deep inside of their heart and mind.

Contentment comes from within. If you let others run your life it becomes more difficult to find true fulfillment. I teach leadership, write books and articles about it, and give speeches on the subject, and...the first thing I like to discuss is how important it is for a person to learn how to lead themselves. Question...always question. "Don't believe what you see, hear or read until you've done research," is what I say in reference to being in a position of "putting your faith in someone or something." 

It's much harder to be led when people know the facts and begin to empower themselves. Otherwise, "group think" becomes the norm and the general population turn into sheep. 

By realizing that the cornerstone to contentment and happiness is knowledge and wisdom - through questioning, opening your mind to different personal experiences, listening, and the guidance of others, you're less likely to be led by having faith in people and things that you haven't fully researched.  

Erica M.
2/29/2012 01:53:07 am

It is very true that people who have less confidence in a situation are then more easily led. I believe that the public, as a whole, needs to ask more questions to find out more information. Then, they would be better educated about a situation and be able to make a decision for themself. On the other hand, if one does not have enough knowledge, then how are they expected to make a decision? It is easier to just follow what others say. As a result, a sloppy decision has been made and the person making the decision, does not know, in their heart, if it was the correct decision to make. And that is no way to live and feel, always second guessing yourself.

3/1/2012 01:35:37 am

Very insightful Erica. Thank you!

3/5/2012 02:53:48 am

Erica makes a good point, but one lacks knowledge, they do not need to be led towards information they seek. Learning something on your own or teaching yourself a craft can be one of the most self empowering acts.

Whenever I think of faith, I think of this quote by Neil deGrasse Tyson: "The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation. "

3/5/2012 03:38:28 am


An excellent quote from a brilliant human being. Thanks!

3/6/2012 12:49:04 am

It is so easy to get lost and follow others when we are unsure of ourselves. I've found that when I start following others and not making my own decisions it leads to stress and feeling overwhelmed because I'm constantly reacting and never handling the problem. You can never be content while walking in the path of someone else, because it's not yours.

3/6/2012 03:36:36 am

Well said Michelle. Yes...contentment comes from within, not by falsely following others. Once you find your own path it's hard to be led by someone else.

Jacki Feild
11/11/2012 12:49:44 pm

Am so enjoying your writings and posts thank you so much Dan have a wonderful day. This is VERY WELL SAID : )


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