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Inner peace seems to be what we are all in search of. Some humans realize it, others don't. Many people mask their desire for inner peace by overcompensating with and/or about other things. Often the material world becomes their substitute for inner peace. It brings them a costume, a form of self deception that hides their inner being, or so they think. However, those who recognize the depth and reality of inner peace are not taken by the mask, they know that the material only covers the nakedness of the soul.

That does not mean that one can't have material things, wealth, physical desires, and inner peace as well. It's only when the physical/material world is so pervasive in one's mind that their soul is lost in the process.

I am only an individual like you. One who has had his ups and downs and has dealt with health, happiness, sickness, and death. Through it all I have learned that inner peace can come by way of a long process or enter one's life as an epiphany. It arrives from knowledge and the wisdom of using one's mind in a cognitive way. By not being led except by one's self. It is derived through questioning...everything - and accepting nothing until all pertinent information has be deciphered. It means having an open mind and not being judgmental. The paradox comes when you finally know that you may never know. When you can flow with the energy of life as if it is a river. And...when you can enjoy the beauty of life for its own sake.

The calmness of inner peace is unveiled when one understands that a cloudy day presents its magnificence in a different, yet no less incredible, way as a day when the sun is brilliant and sheds it light on all that can be seen - like a blanket covering the Earth with a golden hue that cannot be matched by the greatest of artists. Inner peace comes when the sound of children laughing soothes one's soul like the music of a philharmonic. And...when all the things of life are viewed as a huge fabric textured by every nuance that each day brings - that is when one is engulfed by the realization that inner peace is a continuum.

With that, I have listed 7 steps that may help in one's discovery of inner peace. They are as follow:

1. Love all: Every being on this Earth desires love, including one's self. It is hard to give love when a person does not love himself, or herself, first. Be loving to yourself. That also means to forgive yourself and others so that your love is unencumbered.

2. Help many: No one can help everyone. That's impossible. But...each one of us can help a lot of people in a lot of different ways. Whether you give of your time, your money, your effort, or your advice...it doesn't matter. It is the act itself that counts.

3. Care kindly: Many people will care for others in a begrudging way. It may be their job, profession, or...they may feel that it's their obligation. The caregiver who gives without kindness is not giving care at all, but just performing a function. Kindness makes care a caring service.

4. Enjoy others: Each of us needs enjoyment. We all have to laugh. As I often say, "Laughter is the nectar of the soul." Laughter and smiling, fun and enjoyment, are all emotionally and physically beneficial and makes everyone feel better and calmer about themselves.

5. Choose wisely: Life is filled with choices - constantly. We choose every action, everyday. Think about how your choices affect your life and the lives of others. The peaceful individual realizes that his or her energy and actions can create havoc or harmony, for themselves and others. Choose harmony.

6. Want little: The pursuit of material things often produces feelings of anxiety, depression, stress, distrust, greed, and many other emotions that take one's being away from peace. The most important things we have are ourselves, each other, our Earthly home, and time. The more time and energy you spend chasing a fabricated need for an over abundance of the material, the less time you will have to enjoy the peace and tranquility of life.

7. Need only yourself: Ultimately we only have ourselves on this trip called life. Of course, each one of us has other people and animals that we care about, love, and desire to be close with and to. Yet, when all is said and done...we are alone within the multitude. No one should ever be totally dependent on another person. Knowing how to be calm and relaxed in solitude is a wonderful experience. It frees us to realize that true peace materializes when we can be at peace with ourselves first. Then...one can begin to know the beauty of inner peace.
 
 
We live in a society of faith. Faith means different things to different people. To some, it's faith in a Supreme Being, to others it's faith in family and friends, and to still others - it may mean faith in our governmental, civic, academic, and religious institutions, and/or the leaders of those entities. Of course, none of these are mutually exclusive. I'd venture to say that most people have faith in a combination of all, or some, of those I've mentioned.

When we put our faith in anything that's outside of ourselves we begin to lose control of our destiny. It's well known that the best way to control people is to make them feel less confident, less capable, less powerful, less happy, and less content. Those in "power" have been using that method forever. People who lack control of their own destiny tend to want, and often need, someone to follow. However, the best person to look towards is yourself.

Sure it's easier for someone else to tell you what to do. But...those who take the time to recognize what other people are trying to do to them quite often can remove themselves from the situation and follow a different voice; the one deep inside of their heart and mind.

Contentment comes from within. If you let others run your life it becomes more difficult to find true fulfillment. I teach leadership, write books and articles about it, and give speeches on the subject, and...the first thing I like to discuss is how important it is for a person to learn how to lead themselves. Question...always question. "Don't believe what you see, hear or read until you've done research," is what I say in reference to being in a position of "putting your faith in someone or something." 

It's much harder to be led when people know the facts and begin to empower themselves. Otherwise, "group think" becomes the norm and the general population turn into sheep. 

By realizing that the cornerstone to contentment and happiness is knowledge and wisdom - through questioning, opening your mind to different personal experiences, listening, and the guidance of others, you're less likely to be led by having faith in people and things that you haven't fully researched.